When life throws you a curve,
and it will,
if you can’t make lemonade
because it’s too sweet to drink,
suck on the bitter lemon.
Adapt and overcome…
like in all things,
this too shall pass!
At times, we have faced perplexity, discouragement, and desperation. We’ve had experiences leaving us thinking life is unfair. During these times, we felt helpless, and the challenges appeared much larger when they were not. More than likely, those challenges were only smoke screens.
Take a different approach to looking at things. Life is what you make it. You are in control of how you choose to see things. The old adage, “a glass is half full or half empty” is true. If you don’t like what you see, choose to see things differently. Adjust your focus and change your perspective.
Think of the results you desire. Do not focus on yourself as a victim. Focus on becoming victorious. If your challenges are physical, financial, or mental, consider yourself “facing a challenge” instead of challenged by what you are facing.” By this way, your perspective place you in control.
Stay focused! Stay Inspired! Choose to look at things differently!
It’s your choice.
For some, rollercoasters are invigorating and filled with exciting thrills. There’s much anticipation and anxiety. As the ride ascends and descends through loop after loops, your body is turned upside down repeatedly with emotions of laughter, tears, joy, and fear all entangled. Finally, when the ride finishes, a sense of relief or excitement is what one experiences.
At times, isn’t life like a rollercoaster? One minute things are going fine and suddenly a circumstance changes things. Life will change for the better or worse. But, it does not stay the same. Like a rollercoaster, you’re either up or down it seems. When the worse is over there’s a sense of relief, and when things are going well it’s exciting.
Yet, between the ups and downs, there is another posture in life. It’s a posture of remaining grounded. The benefits of being grounded are when life takes you for a ride, if you are grounded, you’re determined to brace yourself and embrace whatever comes your way. Through the ups and downs, you’ll remain encouraged in knowing, “no matter what”, it will soon end. You’re like the person at the bottom of the rollercoaster waiting for others to get off.
Find a place or posture where you can remain grounded- it’s exciting to know it’s possible to live life this way.
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Recently I was watching a 70’s musical performance of classic groups like the Dells, Dramatics, Chi-lites, Temptations on the Public Broadcast station, Sister Sledge was one of the groups performing. Joni, one of its members, was in rare form and beautiful as usual.
Last week, at the age of 60, Joni (the one on the right) passed unexpectedly. The cause of her death is reportedly natural cause. This dynamic group consisted of Debbie, Kim, Kathy, and Joni. Some might remember their song We are Family. We are Family became a theme song for families during the early 70’s.
This week, several individuals I know passed, suddenly. They were ages 44 and 51. Two weeks earlier I attended the funeral of a 92 years old woman. I know death is inevitable and unapologetic, but the passing of these individuals sadden my heart. I must admit, of their passing, I was thinking more about the loved ones left behind.
The consolation I have in situations like these is death does not defeat love. Love conquers all and transcends death. Therefore, I choose to embrace the reality death separates but love reigns.
This Summer my birthday is approaching.
Do I dread my soon newly assigned age? No.
Why should I stress out because my age changes?
Besides, I am grateful to remain among the land of the living.
But, let’s take a more realistic approach. Are we really dreading a number that much? Is it possible we really dread facing the societal expectations for certain ages?
For example, if you are an infant, you act as an infant. If you are an adolescent, you should act as an adolescent. When you become an adult, then you should act as an adult.
Of course, there are scientific studies on developmental stages. Some things are expected within certain age ranges, I’m aware.
But, what’s up with the dreaded resistance of reaching 30, 40, 50, 60 and so on? So what, you reached 30? Guess what? 31 will follow 30 if you keep living.
If you’re concerned about age, don’t stress out, use your time wisely.
Learn, grow, and embrace maturity.
It’s one of the best birthday gifts you can receive.
You may find, you’ll appreciate life.
You’ll recognize there are more years behind you than before you.
You’ll embrace simplicity.
You’ll learn not to “sweat the small things” and others don’t “ruffle your feathers” easily.
You’ll seek less validation from others and you mean what you say unapologetically but apologize when needed.
With maturity, who wouldn’t want that?
After all, when you embrace age, you are really embracing Life!
Why look at Monday with the blues?
Look ahead, take a wider view.
There’s more ahead than what you see.
Why start Monday with a drag?
Change you view, get your focus-
move forward to the weekend.
It’s Monday, so what?
The answer is clear.
You woke up to see it.
Lately, unlike me, my mind has been affixed on dreading to go to the doctor, dreading to get a medical exam, dreading to find out the results, dreading what if, what are the possibilities, and all the things I did not desire.
Then, I realized, I failed to do what I tell others to do, I failed to think on the outcome I desire. Rather than think about things I dread, I should think about life.
Oftentimes, we spend too much time lamenting or toiling over the possibilities of the things we do not desire instead of nurturing and cultivating thoughts of the things we desire.
In other words, we should place our focus on living than simply existing.
I choose life!