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Brown Girls

women in different shades

Black Girls, Brown Girls, Dark Girls
come in all shades of darkness.
Some in shades of Black, Brown,
Caramel, Red, and Yellow.
Some are tall, short, round,
and some are thick, thin, and curvy.
Some are intellectual, musical,
inspirational, sensational, and motivational.
Some are mothers, sisters, grandmothers,
teachers, pastors, writers, artists, leaders,
executives, administrators,  friends, wives,
doctors, lawyers, scientists, entertainers,
athletes, CEOs, Congresswomen, and even a
First Lady.
Some have been hurt, rejected, segregated,
despised, hated, loved, celebrated,
liberated, married, divorced, single,
manipulated, encouraged, and discouraged.
Some have failed, put in cells, been to jailed,
burned, killed, raped, mutilated, and
humiliated.
Some have demonstrated, birthed nations, raised
their babies and other folks babies.
Some have long hair, short hair, curly hair,
nappy hair, kinky hair, wavy, and weaves.
Some are happy, sad, excited, delighted, belligerent, diligent, militant,
anxious, suspicious, malicious, meticulous,
ridiculous, talented, creative, successful,
classy, sassy, talkative, sensitive, insensitive,
sensual, sexy, spiritual, holistic, charismatic,
charming, and gracious,
but, all of them know how it feels to be
a Dark girl.
~Yvonne L

A repost of my original entry

Generations

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My first noticeable awareness of the generational gap between my generation and the Millennials was at my place of employment. I shared first-hand knowledge to a classroom of students about the Civil Rights Era.  During the Civil Rights Era, I was around six years of age, but I remember some of the events leading to the historical landmark.

While talking to the students, I realized many did not know or understand the significance of the movement. There were some students who barely knew who Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr was and that became an awakening to me.  Even more so, most of the teachers were not born until after the Civil Rights Era.  At this point, I accepted I had become a part of a transcendental movement.

If you haven’t figured it out, I’m part of the Baby boomers generation. You know the story, the Baby boomer name is coined because of the booming increase of babies born around 1946 to 1964 primarily because of the post-World War II era.  There’s the generation X group born between the mid-1960’s to early 1980’s. Generation Z are those born after 9/11.

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Then, there’re the Millennials.  Millennials are born around the early 1980’s and 1990’s. In other words, anyone between 18 – 29  is Millennials. Why the early 1980’s?  Well, an article in the New York Times, the author, Dionne Searcey, writes, “by 2020 Millennials will account for one-third of the adult population” (2014). Those born in the early 80’s make up this demographic.

Since the rise of the baby boomers, the Millennials are aggressively growing to supersede them.  The New York Times article goes on to say, according to the census, currently, those age 23 are the largest in the populous age group follow by individuals age 24.  Among the generations, my primary focus is on the Millennials.

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Why is this important? Well, the generational differences affect the way society operates. For example,  the selfie-taking Millennials have a major influence on how marketers market because we’re in the age of Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram to name a few social media outlets. Millennials influence the way communication is transmitted.

For this reason, major mass communication businesses are willing to invest their finances and resources to target Millennials in effort to compete with other competitors. If you don’t see how marketing correlates with Millennials, then check out the last two major political elections that were won. Also, take notice of how the current campaign is run on Twitter and other social sites.

Recently, the fashion model, and business woman, Tyra Banks launched her Next America Top Model campaign in conjunction with social media. The 13 lucky college students were chosen after their photos were posted on their Facebook pages. One of the criteria for being chosen as one of the contestants were the number of “likes.”  Among the Millennial generation, the person receiving high number of “likes” in today’s society is perceived as popular or “in touch” with his or her peers. Some places of employment like marketers take things like the number of “likes” and “followers” in consideration.

According to an article in Forbes, the Millennials are “often misunderstood because Millennials do not approach adulthood the same way as other generations” (Forbes, 2014). This is why Millennials promote creativity in the area of marketing. Millennials are not a part of any establishment. Their vision and values are not confined or defined by societal dictates.  The so-called establishment fine ways to conform to the Millennials.

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With a new attitude and mindset, Millennials are changing how government and businesses keep up with the challenges of operating technology and incorporate new ways of doing business.  If you’re keeping up with the trends, on these lines, the average conference or meeting is no longer conducted exclusively from a board room nor an in-person interview.

Some companies opt to Skype individuals or hold multimedia conferencing because of convenience. I recently had my first Skype interview a few months ago for consideration of a fellowship position. To my surprise, I was chosen. The interview was very informal, and it was a far cry from the traditional nerve-wrecking interviews.  This is another realization of the transcendental changes.

The trend is globalization, therefore, the days of geographic restrictions and limitations are far behind. Since the Millennials, we’re in the age of virtual companies and even virtual relationships.  Get use to it.

How do boomers and generation X  bridge the gap? Well, if you’ve heard of the term “left behind” then, if you do not want to get left behind baby boomers and generation X catch. If you don’t believe it, if you’re texting or Skype, then you’re catching up.  If you’re on the Internet, you are transforming to the age of the Millennials.

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As a society, we are still merging and finding ways to resolve generational differences.  For example, the Social Security issue is one major problem the government is seeking ways to resolve, if possible. Then, there’s the issue of individuals living longer and healthier. This mean boomers and Millennials are both around longer to create socio-economic and environmental concerns in the long-term.

In addition, Millennials contribute to raising the issue of diversity in the workplace. Thus, women’s equal pay issues, fair and equal opportunity practices are held to higher standards, and political legislation is facing the challenge to provide representative of the current changing trends of society. Some of these issues are how to maintain the traditional values of the family, religion, and social structure.

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Baby boomers and Generation X we’re still around. We’re needed too. There’s a truth to the saying,”to know where one is going, one must know where he or she has been.” I have been around long enough to see there is really nothing “new under the sun.” The circle of life does have a way of evolving and reinventing itself. Technology is all about improvement or the creation of something new from what already has transpired.

In other words, whether you’re a Baby boomer, Generation X,  or Millennial, if you like it or not, we’re in this together. Instead of creating a gap, it is time to bridge the gap. It is time to reconcile generational differences and seek ways to blend all ideas and pass on a legacy manner beneficial to all generations.

`Yvonne L

 

References:

Inside the Millennial Mind. Spenner. P., (2014). Retrieved 5/11/16. http://www.forbes.com/sites/patrickspenner/2014/04/16/inside-the-millennial-mind-the-dos-donts-of-marketing-to-this-powerful-generation-3/#4b78c50b371b

Marketers Are Sizing Up the Millennials. Searcey, D., (2014). Retrieved on 5/11/16 from www./nytimes.com/2014/08/22/business/marketers-are-sizing-up-the-millennials-as-the-new-consumer-model.html?_r=0

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Disclaimer: Graphs and Diagrams images are not current and may not reflect current statistics.

 

Response to the Daily Prompt Challenge- Today’s word (generation)

 

 

Mindboggling

Chaos

Stop the madness!

No more!

My mind is already in overload.

I can’t take any more download.

The input is creating too much confusion

and chaos to process.

Give me a little time.

I need to delete some of my thoughts.

Let me reboot.

This is too mind-boggling.

Excuse me…

I am about to shutdown.

 

`Yvonne L.

 

 

Response to the Daily Prompt Challenge – Today’s word (Chaos)

Are You Present or Already Gone?

Disclaimer- I claim no copyrights to the song/or video concept in the above video

The artist Faith Evans released a song entitled “Gone Already” in 2010. Since then, Kelly Clarkson, and a few others, released a song entitled “Gone Already.” In 2010, when I heard Faith Evan’s song, at first, the title caught my attention.

Then, after listening to the medley, I really liked what I heard. But, then, after listening closer to the lyrics and understanding its meaning, I was intrigued by the concept of being with another but emotionally disconnected. We do this more often than we think.

Unfortunately, the disconnection is a reality in many relationships. Both parties are either in denial, they’re unaware, or they know there’s a disconnect, but they don’t know what to do next.

In some instances, they’re perplexed how or when the disconnect occurred. An emotional disconnect occurs on other levels like in relationships between parents and children too. If we’re not careful, we can occupy the same space and because of technology, work schedules, and other activities, communication is weaken.

Now, going back to Evan’s “Gone Already,” there’s a reference in the song to “loving someone who hasn’t taken the time to get to know you, but you go through the motions” these aren’t the exact words, but this is the essence of what the lyrics in one of the lines is saying. Evans goes on further to say, she felt like “a dead man walking and everything was becoming monotonous.”

Some may argue, in regards to committal relationships, particularly marriage, relationships aren’t all about emotions. I agree, relationships require more than emotions to sustain their commitment. But, how can a marriage be sustained without interaction or some form equal exchange? One might give all his or her best, but if there’s no reciprocal exchange or validation of the relationship, then, the couple is only co-existing but not experiencing fulfillment.

Remember, when you entered into a relationship? The both of you were “feeling each other”, or there was something which drew you two together. There was a sense of connection to the vibe of the other.  The interaction was engaging. More than likely, you couldn’t wait to be in the other’s presence.
Well, this is the type of existence and interaction I’m referring to. No, you don’t have to stay in each other’s presence all the time. But, you do need to maintain a level of interaction which requires talking and listening to each other. In other words, be “present.” Don’t “check out” on each other. Communication isn’t limited to couples but in other situations as well.
As in the words of the song, what about you? Are you present or already gone? Are you in the moment. How is your exchange and interaction with others. Are you genuinely interested and concerned about others or do you lack interest when the communication is not about you?

Just Something to think about.

`Yvonne L.

The Art of Saying Yes and No

Some still struggle with saying yes or no when they mean it. When I was younger, the elderly taught me you “say what you mean, and mean what you say.” During those years, this principle sounded easy to say than to apply.  Since I was a little shy,  it was easier to please others than cause discord.

As an adult, on my peaceful journey, I am learning more about the importance of assertiveness. My dependency on the approval and validation from others is no longer a controlling factor.  I try to honor my truth and live in authenticity. While I may fall short, this is my aim.

Subsequently, I listen to others complain about the expectations placed on them from others and hear their complaints regarding things they have agreed to do for others. Their complaint is they wish they had said “no” instead of saying “yes” or vice versa.

Well, why complain if you’re doing for others because you’re kind enough to help? Do it without complaining.  On the other hand, if you’re assisting others out of a sense of obligation or fear of rejection don’t. Say “no.”

Have you considered why you’re the one others freely come to and not others?   The reason is  you may be their only yes.

When the power of saying yes and no is learned, then we learn the power in becoming true to ourselves.  Saying “yes or no” should come from a place of sincerity and purity.  When, we’re not saying “yes or no” begrudgingly our heart is not misleading.

Whenever we’re communicating with others, we must be assertive and take a firm stand. This is not rudeness. It is using good judgment. A “yes” at the wrong time can be detrimental to all involved. The same goes for saying “no”.  Handling things right prevents us from experiencing frustrations about our action and help us avoid becoming resentful.

Take the time to see the value of honoring your truth.  More than likely, you’ll find you’re saying “yes or no”often as before. You will experience empowerment because you did not go against your freewill.

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~Yvonne L

Now, I Know Why Doves Cry

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Prince (Prince Rogers Nelson), a musical genius, and humanitarian,

death saddens and shocks many.  All have an appointed time, but 

sometimes it’s difficult coming to terms when that time is for 

someone dear to us.  I choose to honor the memory of Prince, the

prodigy,  by trading my sadness for wonderful memories of the legend,

his life, and music.  Now, I know why doves cry. 

 

`Yvonne Lott